When I look back at the beginnings of my personal development journey, one of the biggest parodies is that I spent years desperately struggling to keep certain aspects of myself that, in reality, were holding me back the most from becoming the new version of me.
I kept telling myself and those around me about the change I wanted, but my choices were evidence of a very different reality.
And why did I do that?
Because of the fear of the unknown, of course.
But even more because I didn’t understand the dynamics of the transformation process.
I didn’t know how to let go of the “old” and what to do while the “old” was fading and the “new” had yet to emerge.
I thought the transformation was a matter of will and desire and was unaware of the importance of education and a deep understanding of the whole process – a process that isn’t logical. I didn’t know that the transformation process has its own dynamics and “phases” that you have to go through in order to move forward. I didn’t know that it’s a process that can be accelerated and strongly influenced to make the most of it.
And so today, whenever I have the opportunity to guide clients through the transformation process, I feel blessed that I can at least make their journey through the most complex and painful stages of that process a little easier and help them focus their energy on what matters most.
When I think about it, actually, that’s exactly why I chose coaching as a profession.