Iva was a young entrepreneur who was very pleased with her “business game“ and played it very well. However, she was never able to meet her suitable partner for a more serious love relationship. She would regularly meet seemingly intelligent and interesting men, and as soon as she hoped she might have met “the one,” a series of circumstances would follow from which the opposite would happen – she would be completely disappointed in them.

Every new acquaintance with (wrong) “the one“ would increasingly close her heart and quench her hope and faith in the love life she often dreamed of, and in general of males.

With time, all of this together became too painful for her, and she would increasingly think about devoting herself fully to her job, engage in new hobbies in her life, “become more realistic“ (as her mother would often tell her) and completely give up daydreaming about the love relationship she had longed for.


Maybe you share a similar experience as Iva in your love aspect of life, or you know a person who has something similar going on. Or, you may recognize that pattern in your case repeating in another aspect of life. In any case, as soon as it comes to a pattern that is repeated and whose repetition in the person evokes painful and uneasy emotions, know that it is something that is commonly called a life lesson.

In my opinion, life lessons are opportunities that life offers us so that we can take a new step towards awakening our own potential that we all carry within ourselves.

In Iva’s case, her important life lesson was to learn how to open her heart and dare to be vulnerable regardless of the outcome. Instead of conditioning her happiness and openness in her heart by finding the “right“ person for a relationship – and somehow making itself dependent on that person – life gave her the opportunity to gain something much more. Life offered her the opportunity to become a person who dared to love and live with an open heart.

And, of course, to be much more mature from this position to enter the kind of relationship she had longed for and be able to vibrate with a person who is already open-hearted and dare to be vulnerable.

However, as long as Iva believes that she will open up and show her vulnerability only when she meets someone who, by her estimation, truly deserves her heart, attention and energy, she can only attract the person who looks for the same in her – in other words, she can only spin in the same vicious circle of unwanted outcomes.

As the desire for constant growth and development is woven deep into the core of our being – and on a conscious level we are not able to somehow “turn it off“ – for as long as we don’t take a step that leads us towards more conscious living and activation of the potential we already carry within ourselves, life constantly gives us a new opportunity for development and growth. In other words, the life lesson is repeated until we take the opportunity life gives us.


Therefore, next time you recognize that a particular life lesson has been “activated,” before you go forcibly trying to come up with new strategies that are basically an escape from painful and uneasy emotions and constantly bring you back to the same spot, set aside time on a daily basis for yourself that you will spend in solitude, consciously connect with your soul and your inner Light, and ask yourself what opportunity life is trying to give you.

Suitable affirmation/ affirmative prayer: ”I am open to receiving a new vision or idea that is trying to enter my conscious mind.“